The book title Value in the Valley is the conceptual expression that comes to mind when as reflect on 2018. This year I admit, has had its hellacious slopes, winding curves and the turbulent gust of winds were incredibly out of this world. However, in this last phase of 30ville and as I continually maturate deeper into the next phase of adulthood, I realize that it’s in those very valley experiences where the growth occurs. Just as that slow unattractive caterpillar that we ignore and brush off as another bug, our attention is captivated though when we marvel at a butterfly float through God’s gracious air. But how many of us actually pause to meditate on what metamorphosis it took before the beauty unfolded. I value my valley experiences and have learned to sit, walk and at times recline in my truth and truly live in my truth. With that being taken into perspective, the growth begins and in sweet solitude and the sacred communion of meditating and tuning into spiritual ears, the clarity will shake you to your core. Truth is not always something that is an easy pill to swallow. In fact, you made need a piece of bread and a gracious gulp of water. But I promise once, that “truth” dissolves in your mind and spirit, the lesson is learned and poof, you have overcome an obstacle and in the midst, your character has been strengthened as well. On this day I reflect on the sacrecy and truth that the women I call my sisters in my intimate inner circle have each challenged me to look deep within and the hold the hand of my younger self and to forgive my now self of that which has held me bound. To be transparent and true with self, first, and to trust in first my Father and Creator and to also be willing to trust those with my funky stanky flaws and scars and love me in spite of and pour into me that which is necessary to flow further in my truest and strongest self. I am strategically packing up all of 2018 and dropping it off in baggage claim marked unwanted. Because I stand firm on strength to say I found myself after being lost and care not to dwindle back to that gate. Boarding 2019 with greater and grander.
Love & Blessings to you, you, you, and you…
Monique “1MOpoeticSOUL” D.
The Fate of Forgiveness
“When you choose to forgive those who have hurt you, you take away their power” ~Unknown
We all are quite familiar with the conceptual knowledge that forgiveness is not for the person you are forgiving but for you right? And although this is true, the process of actually formulating your mind and spirit to actively and consciously forgive someone is a tedium task. It is not one that comes over night nor does it come with a brush of a cool breeze. Truth be told it can take long spans of time. In some cases you may even have to have certain levels of forgiveness or go back and forgive again. When wounds are reopened and the remembrance of situations that you pushed so incredibly far back that you actually fooled yourself temporarily of forgetting, remind you of the actual occurrence, the salt in the wound aches all over again. Therefore making it almost impossible to let go and truly release. In this season of my life I am experiencing a level of adulthood that is requiring me to forgive and let go. It is quite a challenge because the pain, infinite inquiries and judgement has been a great deal of what has always caused me pain in my life but I am taking steps to release it. Not that I intentionally desire to hold onto the hurt but because sometimes you will never truly understand or perhaps it is not meant for you to understand but to take the experience for what it was and let it go and not haunt nor control your life and interfere with you truly living and seeing life through the eyes of one that have persisted to overcome one of the greatest adversities.
Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you.
Monique “1MOPoeticSOUL” D.
Peace & Grace my beautiful ones….
Ever felt like you were literally s fragile within that “you” were the eggshells. Some situations are so incredibly heavy and full of absolute chaos, that you feel alone at times. Even if you have a faithful few in your inner circle you feel all alone and fear of the ultimate crack. Humpty Dumpty wasn’t the only one that fell, I’ll tell you. We sometimes fall and have cracks, scrapes, cuts, dents, and holes at times. However, we must take the intangible bonding agent to glue ourselves back together and find balance before leaning towards yet another fall. In a truly transparent moment, I admit I am currently going through the fire and the turbulence and speed of the winds blowing in my directions got me a bit shook. Thankfully a fellow sister reminded me that this storm is temporary in the time capsule of the Most High but forever in my timeline. Continually, I pray and meditate, “will my time of peace come and freedom to truly live?” So, I am still trying to see my way clearly to tread into some tranquility and into some newness. Coincidentally, the same day I bid a dear sister farewell for the last time, although I am filled with grief that she is no longer here, I am reminded of her smile. No matter what she had going on and in the midst of our many conversations, she would always give me a huge warm smile and embrace me and depart with the words- “I love you sister”, or “I love you girl”. It is with sincere reminders like this that are the greatest medicine and motivation to push a little harder. In the midst of it all when I sit in solitude and push my pen to paper in full meditation I am reminded that we must unleash all that we hold within and allow those trusting persons to be the sounding board and life jacket when you feel you are drowning. Keep on floating my dears till you see the shore and breathe.
Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you.
Monique “1MOpoeticSOUL” D.
Peace & Grace my lovely and beautiful ones…
When we think of balance we immediately should envision a balance beam we used in science classes to provide the clear visual of adding and subtracting the correct and actual amount to its most meticulous factor. Gazing at the beams as they slid up and down and then that moment when it balances perfectly you felt like you made some unknown discovery. I have come to realize in life that using that same measure visually to gain clarity in how to apply balance in our lives in imperative. Balance in our friendships, relationships and within our circles and most importantly, with our own selves. This is a tedium task at times when life takes off with a tight itinerary but it is essential my darlings. Use the metaphor of doing laundry to look at this balance thing more in depth. So you know when preparing to do laundry, you must sort colors and whites right. Then you prepare to wash with your desired detergent and cleansing agents, be it vinegar for extra freshness and color richness or baking soda for an extra touch of clean vibrancy. One you either hang them up on the line or in the dryer. Upon the drying stage, you prepare to fold and hang up and put away. Each step is vital and necessary in order to have clean clothes that are still in the quality you purchased. So the care in the process is important as well. With each step, you have to strategize and implement the next step to move forward until complete. When we are juggling life and its priorities, wants, needs and desires we must place in the correct order and in fact if it is even needed to the continued maturation of flow of your life and the direction in which you are striving to tread and follow.
We must be aware and conscious to stay in tune knowing when our deeds and assignments have been completed and when it is simply time to move on. Unknowingly we find ourselves committing to unnecessary tasks and leading devotions to others simply out of sacrifice and for heart’s sake. The moment you can stand firm on not committing to that which simply does not fit into your life, your schedule, your flow or at times is not for you to be the savior of coming to someone rescue. This does not declare you a bad person or in fact a non -loyal individual. It simply declares that you are only one person and you must know your limits and stick to your guns. I remember there was a time I tried to commit to all my stuff, be there for my family’s stuff, my friend’s stuff and their folks stuff, that I was neglecting my own stuff and you can’t neglect and shun the one you wake up with and go to sleep with from dawn to dusk and see in the mirror-YOU. Once your time has been put in for that appointed time and for that appoint purpose, then well you assignment at the time is complete and it’s time to clock out and move to the next purposeful/FILLED project and requirement.
A dear poetry sister reminded me, to constantly hydrate when finding and seeking balance. She was indeed correct on that insight and advice. That water I tell you will aid in the clarity of what and when you are supposed to be doing for who and where and for how long. Remain true and in tune with the spirit and with yourself.
Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you. Monique “1MOPoeticSOUL” D.
Peace & Grace beautiful and blessed beings…..
Here’s a nugget for you to ingest on for a few moments.
“Don’t allow the dim dreadfulness of adversities block out the light of your true purpose”
Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you.
Monique “1MOpoeticSOUL” D.
Peace & Grace beautiful and wonderful fearless beings in the realm of LIFE…
Grateful to report I finally had the opportunity step into a different atmosphere that was not only welcoming but – refreshing. With so much rhetoric and some mighty euroclydons in my life, it was a breath of air and an uplifting experience to be reminded that sooner or later, the precipitation shall clear up. The turbulence that is at times ongoing in my work life and here and there in my personal just has its limits at times. You know those moments, you throw in the towels, the blankets and your shoes. You haven’t a clue which direction to tread in or what type prerequisites are necessary. But one thing I do know is, you must remain rooted in your spirit-man/spirit-woman when you feel you have lost your way. It is if your compass has been in an extended repair and you are totally clueless. I am learning that this journey presents some trips where you may need sandals, boots, sneakers and some steel toes at times. But you must always wear some type cover for your soles leading your soul. Simmer on that nugget. Yes, yes, you must always wear some type cover for your soles leading your soul.
Sometimes perhaps you need to feel that breeze upon your feet to be sprinkled with some sacrecy. Then there maybe others, when you need boots or goulashes to remind you how deep you treaded in some interesting waters. But my dear ones, remain transparent with yourself when treading and stepping through these conditions of the wilderness because you must be true to self and the Awesome Creator in order to grow and maintain continual growth. Keep it real, be real, keep it 100. The continual cultivating of your mind and soul must take place, to truly under and inner-stand how to live this life as true spiritual beings upon this place called Earth. True, there are some earthlings that think they have this thing all figured out and as if it is to be led by roles, regulations and protocol as it this life comes with a manmade manual boxing you into denomination doctrines. But no person can predicate what is holy and sacred. You must remain in tune with the true and sacred truth of the Divine Maker and Father of us all. The journey continues, yet one must always upgrade and maintain maintenance on the tools that you use to stay afloat.
Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you. Monique “1MOpoeticSOUL” D.
Peace & Grace my dear blessed ones…
Don’t be deceived by the spiritual and positivisms that this now world we live in is truly all about God in the heavens. The treachery in the minds of those that are lost and praise idol and false entities along with the evil forces that are still very real. In my continual process of growing and yearning the more to inner-stand this thing called “life”. To also tap into the spiritual realm that I can connect and converse with God on a level like never before is a great desire and has become a tool of maintaining my sanity and bond with my heavenly father. All literature that is out there is not fully on the Father, if you know what I mean. Some codes subliminally present themselves as healthy soul tools and avenue are actual paths to darker corridors than you realize. Research what you are reading and its origin and if it matches your belief. Now I am now what you would call a new age spiritual holiness Baptist spiritual being with a Buddhist swirl. What am I saying, you ask… See I know that God is Abba Father is my heavenly creator and father. So, therefore, I am Christian, I believe in the father, the son and the Holy Ghost. I also believe in prayer and the power of prayer. I chant scriptures and some phrases that are crying out to the Lord in the posture of a Buddhist and clench my prayer beads like those is Catholicism as the rosary. When I have no words, I always have a song in my heart and so, sometimes instead of whailing and crying out to God, I moan and express my spirit through the tunes of Zion. I am also knowledgeable to know that I am a spiritual being placed on these soils for an earthly experience. I too know that sometimes, all you can do it fall flat on your face and call on God like your life depends on it and purge your so that your spirit maybe cleansed. I am learning more and more on this journey of a true believer is to listen to the sacred whispers of the Almighty and that moment you feel your mind and spirit are in tune. Prime example… Yesterday, I was in thumbing through some books in the bookstore. Just looking for something to uplift and to also feed the mind while dealing with the ambush of a chaotic day. Some of the books I realized were geared more towards another religion and some in fact are as bold as black print with title that is simply for those of the underworld. Right in the mix of the positive and uplifting magazine was one for witches as well. Be not blinded by the vices of the unholy, the un-Godly and the tricks of the enemy to suck you in. I immediately was zapped within and moved along and ended up circulating to an uplifting book of humor and truth. Even in the search, still be aware and fine tune your spiritual tentacles. A dear sister reminded me that “Spirit is Spirit” and “God is God”. You must always go back to the basics. One of my fav movies, Eat Love Pray had endless quotes that resonated with me, but one in particular that sits with me and I apply it many times… “God dwells within you as you”. With that being stated we must listen as he whispers with true clarity and sincerity.
Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you… Monique “1MOpoeticSOUL” D.