The Fate of Forgiveness
“When you choose to forgive those who have hurt you, you take away their power” ~Unknown
We all are quite familiar with the conceptual knowledge that forgiveness is not for the person you are forgiving but for you right? And although this is true, the process of actually formulating your mind and spirit to actively and consciously forgive someone is a tedium task. It is not one that comes over night nor does it come with a brush of a cool breeze. Truth be told it can take long spans of time. In some cases you may even have to have certain levels of forgiveness or go back and forgive again. When wounds are reopened and the remembrance of situations that you pushed so incredibly far back that you actually fooled yourself temporarily of forgetting, remind you of the actual occurrence, the salt in the wound aches all over again. Therefore making it almost impossible to let go and truly release. In this season of my life I am experiencing a level of adulthood that is requiring me to forgive and let go. It is quite a challenge because the pain, infinite inquiries and judgement has been a great deal of what has always caused me pain in my life but I am taking steps to release it. Not that I intentionally desire to hold onto the hurt but because sometimes you will never truly understand or perhaps it is not meant for you to understand but to take the experience for what it was and let it go and not haunt nor control your life and interfere with you truly living and seeing life through the eyes of one that have persisted to overcome one of the greatest adversities.
Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you.
Monique “1MOPoeticSOUL” D.
Peace & Grace my lovely and beautiful ones…
In protecting our homes and environment, we take measures and are very intricate in what applications we select in our safety. But my question to you is, what lengths you will go to, to protect your mind and your very soul’s being. Will you attempt to place a simplistic manmade wooden gate or will you research the latest technology in iron and electric gates that armor and shield with the greatest protection? Some fences are made to keep others out and some are to keep you in? Will there be a key or a special code to enter? Does your fence allow others to see little, or nothing at all. Of course this is speaking in metaphoric mindset, but you must be weary in these season’s experience of living. Be cautious and conscious of who you allow within your personal realm and the limits of your availability and vulnerability to those beings. Not everyone is worthy of being in your presence nor are they all sincere in their loyalty and concern for you. If you must walk alone at times, then walk solo you must. In all actuality sometimes you need to be alone to truly tune in and connect to the deeper and more powerful source. You can also think and hear with sacred clarity when you are alone, there are no distractions. Tune out all that which is going on and listen to what you truly hear within and direction will reveal itself. Construct your hedge of protection from the toxins of foes and funks that attempt to dilute your sight and ability to feel your way through this stage.
Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you.
Peace & Grace My Lovely and Beautiful Ones… It is my hope that you have been embraced with the sweet grace of the Most High this season and gently warmed with the hugs of loved ones and that your cheeks perhaps ache a bit because you have been smiling and laughing with much joy and ingesting the greatest medicine of our Maker, laughter.
I got to thinking about the intangible gifts that we have and are endlessly blessed with. We spend precious moments of our lives and throughout the day sometimes on a routine basis, doing everything that is expected of us, needed of us, wanted for us and demanded of us. But during these past few months and certainly this season in which we are currently in, I got the greatest lesson. So read carefully and sip on this, because it is sure to steep your soul in some peace and gratefulness. The moment you finally find your happy and deleted all the points in your people-pleasing realm, sweet peace and pure joy floods your life. The process to getting to the peak of this mountain is a tedium journey and it is forever another level with higher heights, but each height you reach strengthens you and structures your core of who you truly and are destined to be. I admit I had been a bit worn and jaded from giving my all to everyone and no happy in my account and shunning “me” because I have zero selfish bones in my body and selflessness just comes naturally for me. But I decided to sip on some happy and I like the flavor and I have totally withdrawn from the people pleasing diet regiment and finally living totally for me.
Freedom, peace, and pure happiness are so grand, there is no box or bag that can carry it nor a wide enough bow to wrap it. That is the comfort of knowing that it is limitless my dears. And even as the day progresses, sit in some silence to reflect on simply “just being” and absorbing the sweetness that is accompanied by God’s blessings.
Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you… Spread some joy and then spread another dose and another and then sprinkle some in the atmosphere everywhere you tread. Leave an essence of peace and goodness for someone to soak up… Monique “1MOpoeticSOUL” D.
“Raise the rest of your life to meet you.”
Peace & Grace to you my lovely and beautiful ones…
I found the quote listed above written on a post it. Having no clue how long ago I jotted it down, where I saw read it or how long ago, it was in plain sight of my view this morning. Infinitely grateful for always staying tune and never ignoring when a message is being placed just for me at that specific “right now” time. After attending a poetry family reunion with my siblings and returning back to my normal routine and life, I felt a bit weighed down. Simply because when you have been in the company of nothing but positive energy, humble and sincere souls, those that honestly love you and see you and not the mention being in a realm of infectious inspiration, it is a bit difficult to leave it. But we must return to our normal routines and to our lives. On the other hand, when you are engulfed with so many pestilence attitudes and constant strife, it is a bit daunting to get back into that willingly. But this morning when I found this quote, and allowed it to simmer within my inner woman. We must be able to ride or stroll along in any weather as we travel and no matter the calmness or tumultuous effects in our midst, you must stay and be reminded of the intangible gifts that reside within and the uplifting spirit of those that see you and know that no matter what, you are someone who matters and never hide behind your situation and push, push, push on forward pass the pain, pass the strife, pass the pressures that those around you, that you must deal with and don’t allow it to dictate your spirits strength and determine your resilience. Being in solitude can be sweet and at times can be just as solitary and you become consumed of your own obstacles, but you must remember you were chosen and selected for this time, for much as a time as this to be amazing and be instrumental in what the Most High has placed within. Never shelter yourself within your feelings…Continue to maturate within to truly see the depth of what this life brings and your assignment and determination to continuing pushing being the bright beam of light that you are. Share that light in your words, your kind and random acts to and for others, show love, share your heart with a simple smile. I met another me this weekend and I am so grateful for those appointed siblings that were and are placed within my life for a purpose. Although you may be consumed with many storms focus on the calmness and sweet peace of light that soothes the atmosphere.
Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you, Monique “1MOpoeticSOUL” D.
Peace & Grace to you my lovely Shugas…
You know jealousy is a crazy power that takes over the foolish and mindlessness ones. It still baffles me why and how folks are soooooooooooooooooooooooooo incredibly envious and bleeding emerald green when the truth cuts them. In fact what is totally redundant to me is the reasons known and unknown why those being lash at you with such hatred and animosity. But I have found out instead of stopping to the levels of ignorance, it pays more in humility and growth to be the grander person and ignore it and be the better and wiser one. After all, ignorance gets one nowhere and certainly, no foreigner inherits your birthright and the intangible aspect of the “you” you are. You cannot be ignored temporarily but never erased and your worth is far wealthy than naysayers, dreamcrushers and ruin runners. Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you. Love & Blessings, Monique “1MOpoeticSOUL” D.
Peace & Grace to you my lovely and beautiful ones….
We must never ignore the mere important factor of life and living. We sometimes indirectly get entangled in the loops, swirls and tug of war that routine and life’s situations brings us. BUT we must never ever ignore the important of simply “living”. This thing called “life” is so precious and just as breath being carefully and intricately blown in that shell of your mortal body, it can be swiftly or gradually taken away. I have a vision of a goldfish when it’s taken from the bowl. He gasps and his gills are moving and constricting for air for that moisture and struggles to find that sweet pleasure of breath. If he is not quickly placed back in, he flips around and gradually inhales and exhales slowly and as that tempo declines he succumbs. But if he is placed in that water in time, we just whisp right along with the waves of the water and flows in his motion. For that pure motion, give thanks. The tempos may vary at times and sometimes that dry air and constriction to push through may be a tedium journey, but just push through to swift through the great bowl of life and living… Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you. Monique “1MOpoeticSOUL” D.
Peace & Grace to each of you my lovely Shugas…
This is my Mother’s Day edition mound of love and truth I must share with you. Just Christmas, New Years and some other holidays, media and society has taken it somewhere that is very commercial. And although it is an observed holiday we have got to remember my beautiful ones that we must celebrate our mothers every day and not just the Sunday set aside. It is not about the grandest gift nor greatest deed, it’s all about love. For many it is a triumph getting through for having lost a mother or mother figure, so some choose to not acknowledge it. My personal perspective is to respect the choices of others because we all heal, deal and accept things differently. Let us also be reminded that not only those that birth children are mothers either. Those nurturers who may have never given birth are some of the key ingredients in our lives that make us who we are. That elder in the community, that mother in the church who never carried a fetus but mothered more children to count. For those caretakers and sweet souls that step in when parents are nowhere to be found and cradle seeds from birth, from the streets or those that are lost. For the foster moms that open their open hearts and homes to unwanted and broken ones, loving and caring for them until they are ready to fly further in their journey. For the aunties and big sisters who are the “Jr. Mothers” on patrol when mom wasn’t around or until she returned. And last but not least for all those women carrying a dream in their soul, you dear beautiful one, are bearing a seed that shall come to fruition and be birthed when the Most High crowns that vision with his blessing your birthing shall release some spectacular and Divine.
In memory of my Grandma East Mae who birthed my mom and late auntie, I celebrate her everyday with the lessons my mom passed and continues to pass on. Much love and endless kisses to heaven to my Auntie Eve for being the sugar and spice that molded me to be a unique one and embody the womanly soul of the model of being a leader. To my Granny, Phe Phe, for the old soul and sweet essence of being stern, loving and being secure in being a strong woman independently, if I could hug you now, I know it was exude scents of pond face cream, sweet and gentle just as you.. Last but certainly not least, to my Mother, my sweet Rock, I am grateful that God allowed me to be wombed in your belly. For all the lessons learned and all the talks and wisdom, I open my ears and heart for you to pour in as much as you can so that I may be a fraction of the greatness you are. My love and words are my greatest assets I have to offer you, because they don’t and won’t expire. Blessings to all the mothers and mothers to be near and far, known and unknown. Love up on your moms if they are still present and for those that have transitioned, carry them in remembrance of the lessons and all of them that lives within you. Love & Blessings to you, you, you and you.… Monique “1MOpoeticSOUL”D.